Here's a video by Leo from www.actualized.org. We have talked about "shyness" in class and although some of you might not consider yourself shy - I would like you to watch this video and post your feedback about the video below. Please also read Jeremiah's work as he has written in a profound and personal way about this issue.
We have discussed this in the context of "starting again anew" next year as you move forward into your next steps in life.
How to overcome shyness and feel more confident in public ? Overcoming shyness is a challenge that many people struggle to end. Shyness is an emotion known for having trouble interacting with different people. In order to overcome shyness also referred to as facing your fears, first you have to let the idea of shyness into your brain go away which will make things go from bad to worse. To overcome shyness, the image of the person you see yourself as, needs to be overcome by how people stare at you to the point you worry way too much about their opinion, and think you have to change to look better for them.
There are many ways to overcome shyness, and feel confident in being around more people. For example, you need to feel confident in yourself in not only using affirmations, but keep telling yourself you are normal which is very important to do. On the other hand, some challenges to overcome your fears of interacting with other people can be finding some attractive females at a club, getting rejected by them, making new friends, or even going to a business meeting. These are the types of challenges that can cause shyness to occur which can then become difficult to out-perform. Interacting with other people is not easy, but if you want them to become friends with you, why not step up to them, and introduce yourself, instead of waiting for them to approach you. When asking the person you are meeting for the very first time, whether a male or female to go to a fancy restaurant, movie theater, bar, or even just a walk in the park is what can motivate you to overcome your fears of shyness for good. Rejection happens to everyone, i mean everyone including females, so men your not alone, but don't get too sensitive or get depressed about, because the worst they can say is no, am i right ?, just ask another out, and you'll be fine.
Steps i can take to overcome shyness 1) Talk to someone i have never talked to before, like a cashier, cab driver, or an MTA driver, such as what is their name, what are their hobbies, can we get to know each other. 2) What we have in common 3) Introduce myself to someone who may need a friend, and also had to overcome shyness. 4) Introducing myself to a female and male (to be my friend), and ask them what they love to do when they are not busy ? I can apply this to going to a new college because i am going to surrounded by 30-40 people in a big classroom, and if I'm going to be their for hours i have to get used to them. I can join the clubs at college they have to offer so i can meet other people which can make feel more relaxed and comfortable, while becoming their friends.
This video made me realize that I might just be shy. We can all be shy in different ways. Some people are shy when it comes to presenting to the whole class. Not me. I am good with presenting but I am shy when it comes down to one thing. Traveling by myself. I have this fear when people look at me or just being around a bigger crowd. I may not seem like the type of girl who's shy because of that but it's true. When I take the train alone, I get anxiety, when a random person comes up to me to ask "Where is this building," I get anxiety and I become shy. Being shy isn't a bad thing. It takes time to overcome it.
When I take the train done I read, listen to music, or just sit there and think. I let my mind wander so I don't have to bare with the thought that I am by myself. Many people has overcome shyness. Will you be the next to overcome it?
How to overcome shyness and feel more confident in public ?
ReplyDeleteOvercoming shyness is a challenge that many people struggle to end. Shyness is an emotion known for having trouble interacting with different people. In order to overcome shyness also referred to as facing your fears, first you have to let the idea of shyness into your brain go away which will make things go from bad to worse. To overcome shyness, the image of the person you see yourself as, needs to be overcome by how people stare at you to the point you worry way too much about their opinion, and think you have to change to look better for them.
There are many ways to overcome shyness, and feel confident in being around more people. For example, you need to feel confident in yourself in not only using affirmations, but keep telling yourself you are normal which is very important to do. On the other hand, some challenges to overcome your fears of interacting with other people can be finding some attractive females at a club, getting rejected by them, making new friends, or even going to a business meeting. These are the types of challenges that can cause shyness to occur which can then become difficult to out-perform. Interacting with other people is not easy, but if you want them to become friends with you, why not step up to them, and introduce yourself, instead of waiting for them to approach you. When asking the person you are meeting for the very first time, whether a male or female to go to a fancy restaurant, movie theater, bar, or even just a walk in the park is what can motivate you to overcome your fears of shyness for good. Rejection happens to everyone, i mean everyone including females, so men your not alone, but don't get too sensitive or get depressed about, because the worst they can say is no, am i right ?, just ask another out, and you'll be fine.
Steps i can take to overcome shyness
1) Talk to someone i have never talked to before, like a cashier, cab driver, or an MTA driver, such as what is their name, what are their hobbies, can we get to know each other.
2) What we have in common
3) Introduce myself to someone who may need a friend, and also had to overcome shyness.
4) Introducing myself to a female and male (to be my friend), and ask them what they love to do when they are not busy ?
I can apply this to going to a new college because i am going to surrounded by 30-40 people in a big classroom, and if I'm going to be their for hours i have to get used to them. I can join the clubs at college they have to offer so i can meet other people which can make feel more relaxed and comfortable, while becoming their friends.
Jeremiah Santiago
DeleteThis video made me realize that I might just be shy. We can all be shy in different ways. Some people are shy when it comes to presenting to the whole class. Not me. I am good with presenting but I am shy when it comes down to one thing. Traveling by myself. I have this fear when people look at me or just being around a bigger crowd. I may not seem like the type of girl who's shy because of that but it's true. When I take the train alone, I get anxiety, when a random person comes up to me to ask "Where is this building," I get anxiety and I become shy. Being shy isn't a bad thing. It takes time to overcome it.
ReplyDeleteWhen I take the train done I read, listen to music, or just sit there and think. I let my mind wander so I don't have to bare with the thought that I am by myself. Many people has overcome shyness. Will you be the next to overcome it?